How are you?

I hope you are having a great day… or century… or millennium… Or whatever… I guess it really is all good with you every day since you don’t really deal with the whole time thing.

Anyway, I just thought I would drop you a note. As a matter of fact, my Higher Self kinda suggested I do it. You might know him. He’s tall, dark, and really handsome. He goes by Frank, but will also respond to other things like, “Oh shit!” and “How the hell did this happen?” He’s really a great guy but I guess you already knew that.

Anywho… see the reason I’m writing is cause I have something I want to exchange. No, it’s not any of the Christmas presents I received cause they were all great.

I don’t know how to say this nicely, so I’ll just say it like this: I, um, want to turn in some of my body weight. Now, it’s not that it hasn’t been good to me. I’m not trying to make this weight wrong. It really did a great job of protecting me: from other people, from riding rollercoasters, and from too much intimacy. It helped ground me when I was feeling lost. I always knew I could add some more weight if I wanted to.

So, I guess this is kinda awkward. You see, this body weight has kept me stuck to the earth. And that’s been really cool. But, I, uh, would really like to fly a bit. I’d like to climb up the side of a mountain. I’d like to go dancing all night. There’s a whole lot of things I’d like to do.

I guess I’m wondering if I could trade in this body weight for some muscle mass. Maybe some well-defined muscles. While we’re at it, I’d also like to give up these feelings of self-consciousness. I mean, I could really get into being the hottest guy in the room. Maybe. One step at a time, I guess.

My Higher Self has been real great about all of this. He keeps reminding me that I’m already perfect the way I am. And that my body is totally cool, no matter how much weight I add to it (or remove from it). He’s also been reminding me that my body will totally take care of itself if I will let it.

So, I’m hoping you can help me out with this.

Oh wait… my Higher Self is poking me. He says to tell you this:

Here is all my extra body weight. I’m letting it go. Bring me the perfect muscle mass in exchange. And do it all so that it’s easy, effortless, and graceful for me.

OK, that feels really good. Thanks!

Love always,
Frank

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Here’s the reply I got instantly:

YES!

I couldn’t think of where to start, so I randomly opened The Only Diet There Is to see what Sondra Ray might have to suggest. I opened to a page about parental (dis)approval. So, that’s where I started:

Even though my parents disapprove of my weight…

(By the way, after the ellipses above, in EFT we add “I still deeply and completely love, accept, and forgive myself.”)

I don’t know if my parents still feel this way, but it was a place to definitely start since I know they disapproved when I was growing up. I’m sure that they were trying to do the best for me, but I felt disapproval. I started off feeling a 5-6 on this issue. And was able to tap it out to a 0.

The next round came up spontaneously:

Even though I’m afraid of what I might lose if I lose this weight…

As I moved through this issue, I could see the following things I was afraid of losing:

• sweetness
• compassion
• softness
• fear

The first three issues have been clear to me for a while. If I lose weight, I might become an edgier and more intense person. Which is really funny, but it is a perception that I have.

At first I didn’t understand why fear would be in the list until I thought about some of the activities that I was afraid of as a child that being fat kept me away from: climbing too high up in trees, playing football, etc.

To end the work, I tapped on one of the specific issues above:

Even if I lose my sweetness if I lose this weight…

That started off as a 4 and got down to a 0 in intensity after one round. I didn’t do the others, because just the realization of that seemed to move the issue in toto.

Tonight I’ll be working on a related issue: feeling alone in a crowd. And, tomorrow I will begin doing my daily EFT work in the mornings.

I am not going on any diet. I am changing my mind about my body.

I have known for a long time that the fat in my body protects me from my environment in a variety of ways. I don’t need that protection, but I still have it as of right now.

In letting go, I’ll be using a few resources:

• EFT, particularly the work of Carol Look.
• The Overfed Head, by Rob Stevens: a great little book about trusting the body.
• The Only Diet There Is, by Sondra Ray: one of the first places where I discovered that I wasn’t fat, I was un-forgiving.

As this process unfolds, I expect I will find out some interesting things about my body, but mostly I expect that it will be a process of shedding the unwanted and no longer needed: beliefs, expectations, unforgiveness, pain, and, of course, fat.

Right now it’s Sunday night and I’m about to go to bed. Before I do, I’ll be doing some EFT on weight. And I’ll be asking for help from every corner, from the seen and unseen, and from those wonderfully unexpected synchronicities that always happen in every endeavor.

This journey is about learning to be fully in and completely trust my body. I invite you to do the same in the way that resonates for you. And to share your own experience and beliefs.

Let’s go!